Homestudy Problems

My husband and I have been trying to see our homestudy since DYFS received it from Robin's Nest in July. We had been stonewalled about coming to DYFS and looking it over.

Our new worker agreed that we should be able to read what was said about us, especially since she doesn't know why we haven't had a match yet.

This past Tuesday, we traveled to Hammonton to read it.

Now that I have read it. I know why I haven't had a match.

It says that my DH and I enjoy several alcohol drinks every weekend.

She also raised questions about how we were REALLY paying our bills as I am a full time graduate student. (DYFS did address this issue before we were licensed and put an addendum about my full assistantship and stipend. But it wasn't filed with my homestudy. So when they sent my homestudy out to OK, OK didn't receive it.)

 

Because I am diabetic, I do not drink at all. The worker that came for our homestudy never asked me about drinking.

My DH drinks infrequently and never to excess.

DYFS workers from regional and the county local have been to my home know what she said was untrue. They keep telling us how wonderful we are, but that doesn't help knowing that we have been misrepresented.

 

DH wants to write to our assemblyman and the head of the Southern Region for DYFS. I don't know how to do it and deal with strictly the facts rather than in emotion.

 

Any advice?

My husband and I have been trying to see our homestudy since DYFS received it from Robin's Nest in July. We had been stonewalled about coming to DYFS and looking it over.

Our new worker agreed that we should be able to read what was said about us, especially since she doesn't know why we haven't had a match yet.

This past Tuesday, we traveled to Hammonton to read it.

Now that I have read it. I know why I haven't had a match.

It says that my DH and I enjoy several alcohol drinks every weekend.

She also raised questions about how we were REALLY paying our bills as I am a full time graduate student. (DYFS did address this issue before we were licensed and put an addendum about my full assistantship and stipend. But it wasn't filed with my homestudy. So when they sent my homestudy out to OK, OK didn't receive it.)

 

Because I am diabetic, I do not drink at all. The worker that came for our homestudy never asked me about drinking.

My DH drinks infrequently and never to excess.

DYFS workers from regional and the county local have been to my home know what she said was untrue. They keep telling us how wonderful we are, but that doesn't help knowing that we have been misrepresented.

 

DH wants to write to our assemblyman and the head of the Southern Region for DYFS. I don't know how to do it and deal with strictly the facts rather than in emotion.

 

Any advice?

You don't know nothing about me

I can't stand it when people second guess me, because they think they've got my number. Guess what? My number is unlisted!
I am so ticked off at this point that I can hardly think. Someone at the University that I have to work with as part of my assistantship had said that she was going to write what I thought was a plum article for my department newsletter. It would involve going to Philadephia and interviewing a young restauranteur at his place and taking pictures. I said okay for her to do it as she is my superior. No problem there. Then she emails me this morning with that she is passing it on to a student worker to do a phone interview. I discuss it with my immediate boss  before replying that we would do the story ourselves.

That sets her off. She emails me to call her, and before I get it she is already on the phone for me to argue that I should give this work study worker an opportunity for publishing credit. If she worked in my department no problem, but she doesn't. Also, I wouldn't give her such an importnat assignment out of the box. I stood firm about what my vision for the article should be, and she said it wasn't worth the trip to Philly and asks to speak to my immediate boss. No problem, I said and handed it over to her.

Her feeling is that to go to Philly would be a job for a professional and she is not willing to pay for a professional. What am I? I can  interview local entrepreneurs and cover local arts events and board of ed meetings for the local paper. I can write for a regional magazine, but I am not a professional?

Reporters I meet from the Camden papers and the Philly papers treat me like a peer, but to University Affairs I am a amateur. She doesn't know me.

I am trying to calm down so I can have a successful meeting  at  DYFS this afternoon. I can't go in there already spitting fire.

I always knew I was a formidable woman!

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